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Freida Pinto and the career girl

Freida Pinto left her boyfriend Rohan to pursue her career in the glam world. Was she right in crushing love to go ahead ? Was the decision taken in haste ?
The career woman, her dreams, her life and love.

Ok fine, Slumdog won Oscars, congrats, bye bye lets go to sleep.
The next day- Lets look at what took place

Freida Pinto left her boyfriend Rohan, a somebody from Goa, who obviously did not fit in to be Freida's hubby as she overnight became an international diva. So was she right ? Shobhaa De thinks that way. she says
The mistake both of them made was to rush into marriage. Going by press reports, it was one of those hasty decisions which Freida at any rate, apparently regretted soon after. It was too late by that time, as her wedding pictures suggest. She could not have dreamt that ‘Slumdog..’ would happen to her… and because of that one film, her entire life would change so dramatically, practically overnight.
Well all my thoughts about the good and charming pinto are beginning to fade now. Before I read the story of the Rohan breakup, I used to associate Pinto with the lines of Maya Angelou's poem, 'Still I rise'.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I'll rise...

What intrigues me is the importance given by the career woman to the people who love her. Shobhaa, I believe is no different. It is more of a use and throw approach that I have problem with. Rohan loved Freida Pinto before she became the 'IT' girl of the global county with marquee awards and people associated to her name. Let us take cue from our bollywood biggies on the other side. Shahrukh Khan, Aamir Khan and many others stuck to their wives even after they became superstars. Marriages with female having the upper hand usually end on a sorry note. But why ? Why do they crush the love given to them to climb a step higher, when they don't need to ? I believe god too is inadequate to answer this question. Maybe it's always better to stay away from the career oriented women. I'd like to conclude this by the lines from Pablo Neruda's poem, 'If I forget you'

Well, now,
if little by little you stop loving me
I shall stop loving you little by little.

If suddenly
you forget me
do not look for me,
for I shall already have forgotten you...

That is probably the only thing Rohan is left with.
I am not entirely against the career woman, but the crushing of love by few such woman is something I don't appreciate too much. Meanwhile google is celebrating girls day as a part of national engineer's week. I think such efforts should be taken up by TATA, Reliance and other giants in India. It would be a strong statement against the hooligans of mangalore pubs and also a step in bringing this country forward.

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